I am the only one who feels like they aren’t quite enough? Somedays I feel like I’m not brave enough, or hardworking enough, or tough enough, or gentle enough, or smart enough or generous enough, or disciplined enough… I could go on and on!
Although everywhere we look, our culture appears to promote prioritizing self-care, self-love, self-worth… and yet at the same time, we are bombarded with messages to inspire us to try harder, dream bigger and get more done in less time. How can I prioritize self-love while at the same time feeling that I should be trying to improve myself and my life in so many different areas? It is really enough to make me feel crazy.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why can’t I just ‘be’ and be ok with that?
For example, I am so proud of the fact that I started my blog after years of thinking about it, that I post regularly, and best of all, that people are reading it (thank you, readers!). I have reached the goal that I set. Why can’t that be good enough? Why do I now feel pressure to ‘expand my audience’ and ‘spread my message’? I can’t even tell if it’s my internal voice wanting to do more, or have I been conditioned to always strive for more?
My facebook feed is full of inspiring messages about ‘just be you’ and ‘never giving up’ and ‘dream big’. And I am totally guilty of sharing these posts as they remind me that things will get better when I’m stuck in a rut. But what if we have a small dream that is just the right size for us? What if we attain that dream and want to enjoy it just the way it is? Why can’t that be enough?
I love learning and so I attend a lot of workshops, whether is about art, small business or personal growth. I enjoy learning and try new things. But lately, I am wondering if they have caused some unwanted side effects. Are they making me feel like I need to do more? Or I am not doing enough of the right things? Maybe I am not clear enough?
So on this Sunday evening, I am practicing feeling that I am enough, just the way I am at this very moment (with a little Netflix and my knitting).
I’d love to know if others can relate to feeling enough, or rather not enough? Have you moved beyond it and have ideas to share?